I wanted to do a little update now that we have 2 little kiddos running around. Aside from getting less sleep...our house looking like a tornado came through it 5 times per day...eating off of paper plates (husband loves this because this means no dishes ha), life with 2 kids has been an easier transition for us than going from 0 to 1. We've only been a part of the 2 under 2 club for 2 weeks, so I know there will be many many challenges and crazy times ahead but the first few weeks have been a lot easier this time around.
It's not as much as a lifestyle change because we're already doing the whole diaper thing (what's a few more in the bag?) and Grayson mainly just goes along with Camden's schedule for the day since he's sleeping so often. You just know what to expect and aren't questioning as much! Grayson has been good about sleeping on the go, so we're trying to get out when we can since it works right now. We've made it out to the park, splash pad, and to a mexican restaurant for lunch so far...with DRUMROLL...no tears or temper tantrums! Miracle? Maybe.
Mommy...One thing no one warned me about was the guilt and sadness I would have about not being able to spend as much time with Camden and how hard it is on me that he's not "the baby" anymore. This has easily been the most difficult part for me (besides trying to breastfeed with a very active toddler running around!) because I'm used to being able to do everything for Cam, and now my time is divided between two kiddos who need me. Billy does most of his bedtime routine now and also hangs out with him when I feed Grayson, so sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of time with him and he's mad at me for it. I know that this will get better once Grayson is a little older, but it's still hard because when I give Grayson attention I feel like I'm hurting Camden's feelings, and when I give Camden attention I feel like I should be loving on Grayson. Ohhhhh, the emotions! ha!
Other than that, all is going great and I feel so thankful that everything is going smoothly so far.
Here's some of my favorite things that have been essentials for us the past week and a half: Chicco Double Stroller // Chicco KeyFit Infant Car Seat (I like this one so much more than the Britax one we had for Cam) // Covered Goods Nursing Cover (I use this as a cover on the car seat too) // Boppy Newborn Lounger
Love your honesty about bf. Just with Graham I feel overwhelmed with having to whip it out all the time and I've always said that baby #2 will probably just have to go with the flow.
ReplyDeleteI love your honesty. I couldn't BF Alexander, and the nurses and lactation consultants at the hospital were so judgy. I SO agree with your statement - fed is best. You do whatever it takes to get your babies fed. If formula is better for your mental health, then you do that. You can't pour from an empty cup, so you need to take care of yourself first. Your last section gave me all the feels right now. That is my biggest reason for not going ahead with a second baby already - I will feel so sad and guilty about missing out on time with Alexander. I'm so curious to see how things develop with your little family. I hope you'll continue to share, because it really can benefit people who are on the fence about a second. It is also so sweet to hear about how Cam is with Grayson. I love that. It makes my heart melt just thinking about it!
ReplyDeleteYou are doing great, mama! Sounds like things are going pretty well, but you'll get into even more of a groove with your attention I'm sure. You rock! Grayson is absolutely perfect
ReplyDeleteThat's so great! I'm glad things are going well so far. I kind of feel like going to 2 would be easier than 1 because it's not such a huge lifestyle adjustment because you know what to expect. Maybe? That's what I'm hoping, at least. Ha!
ReplyDeleteI needed this post!!! So many things so well said! I felt and sometimes still feel the guilt with my Camden, and have been making time for special time with just him. I will say that it has gotten easier and the guilt has subsided over the weeks. Also, after getting awful cases of mastitis twice (and being hospitalized for it once), this whole nursing thing is becoming such a burden on my mental state and my family. Trying to not be so hard on myself - my family needs ME more than my milk. If I need to switch to formula, it may be best for everyone. Thanks for making me feel better about it - it won't be the end of the world if it happens. Your boys are beautiful and you are obviously doing awesome mama! Congrats again!!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are ROCKING this momma!! So proud of you for taking everything in your stride and not letting things stress you out - I think we hear so many horror stories that it is so easy to think that will happen to us too!
ReplyDeleteThe guilt is always difficult and looking back now (two years later already!) and SJ is a mommy's girl and EN a daddy's girl... But I was convinced SJ would never want to spend time with you because I was always with the baby and she was with daddy!
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Sounds like you guys are doing great! I am so impressed you've all gotten out of the house together already! I'm glad your recovery is going well too! Definitely don't push yourself too hard. I did that a few times and ended up feeling so sore at the end of the day. And yes, the bf'ing with a toddler thing? Oye! It is so challenging! I am also contemplating how long I can keep it up! Fed is definitely best... and a sane mama :)
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